Log 3

    

    

    This week I moved on to the next three chapters, which is about another concept, FOBO. FOBO, different from FOMO I mentioned in my first log, is about an anxiety-driven urge to hold out for something better based on the perception that a more favorable alternative or choice might exist. People with FOBO are likely to make delayed decisions, which may cause them to miss many opportunities they originally were able to grab. 

    As a person who is indecisive and ambitious, I’m the one who seriously suffers from FOBO. So when I read through the concept of FOBO and some behaviors of FOBO people, I somehow felt a little ashamed. I was like, “Oh, this is totally the same as my usual behavior.” Take my train ticket buying habit for example, whenever I look for the ticket on the app of Taiwan Railway, I always have a fluke mind, thinking that I will probably see a ticket with better times after a few days. Therefore, I won’t buy a train ticket immediately even though the time is still acceptable for me. While this bad habit usually makes me end up failing to buy any ticket on the day I want to return to my hometown. In addition to that, I once experienced the failure to get any jobs for which I felt like applying in the end due to my indecisiveness. It happened in the second semester of my freshman year. I still remember in the beginning of the second semester, I made up my mind to step out of my comfort zone to try things I never did before, such as doing a part-time job.Thus, I began searching for positions in many divisions in NTUST. Though I did find some vacancies, I constantly hesitated to submit the application forms, for I worried about too many things and thought perhaps I could find a better position. Not until I made sure this position was truly suitable for me did I submit my application forms. Sadly, when I submitted my application forms, there were no more vacancies. In spite of having found the part-time work position in one of the divisions in NTUST, now I’m still a little regretful for being so indecisive and FOBO that I missed lots of precious opportunities at that time.

    Sometimes it’s just pretty normal for human beings to be FOBO since we all have a desire to seek for better options out of our inner eagerness and greediness. However, it’s of paramount importance that you have to know the value of your time, money, and more importantly, the things you truly want. That is, you need to make decisions based on your real demand and reasonable expectation. Just like what the author said in the article, “If you keep searching for things according to the unreasonable expectation, then you’ll never get anything in the end.” With the previous negative experience, now I’ve learned to seize things I would like to pursue or things I don’t want to miss. l learned to limit my options, focusing on priorities, and embracing imperfection, etc. I always bear the sentence "The longer you delay your decisions, the greater the risk that some of your potential alternatives will simply fade away" in my mind, reminding myself not to care about too many things, just do it first until you give up. That doesn’t mean I’ll do anything appealing to me unconditionally; instead, I’ll first assess my abilities, time, what this thing can bring to me and then make a decision. In conclusion, we only live once, so just live in the present and bravely chase after something you like without any regret or hesitation !