Log 5

    On the page48 in The Gift by Dr. Eger showed three keys to free ourselves from avoidence. First is “feel so you heal”. As I mentioned at he last post, no one can really be cured without facing the negative part of ourselves. This method requires identifying a feeling and naming it without judgement or trying to change it. Identifying a emotion shouldn't be hard for me. However, the most diffcult part for me is naming without judge it even trying to change it. Since my childhood, I always showed the bset part of me. Jessie should be a optimistic, happy girl. I shoudn't or I couldn't let people discover the sadness inside if me. Therefore, when I felt a certain of sorrowful emotion which almost occupied my mind, I would yell at my inner and said “Jessie, come on, put yourself together, we don't do this.”. But who knows the recoil was so strong and merciless that broke me down without any pity. The consequence of runnig away from my true emotions (sad, angry, disppoint) could be a nightmare that I would never want to imagine again. So, I started to write down any feeling and thought in my mind and try my best to identify them, hug them.

The second is “everything is temporary.”. This sentence told me that no matter how hurt or painful the sadness could bring to me, it would all vanish anyway. Our emotions are like the mists in the forest, once the sunlight shining down, it will lift eventually. But if we decided not to embrace them, it would live inside of us everlasting. Dr.Eger also shared some tips to do when we were facing the emotions. We could step away from the situation that would tigger the emotions more. Then sit in stillness form a moment and breathe, we can close our eyes as well. By giving youself a moment but still knowing how you feel at that moment. We need to trust ourselves and our emotions that“this is what happen to me right now, I accept you, I can feel you, I won't run away but I know you are temporarily. ”

The last on is “the opposite of depression is expression.”. From this sentence, I realized that everythig is indivisible. We can't escape from our emotions. But we can choose how to deal with it. Expressing is equal embrancing, the reason is because once we really feel the emotions that moving like a wind in our mind and trying to identify them, we could finally do the self-awareness. We should take responsibility for our feelings and express our truth. By practicing this method, we are not only knowing ourselves but also reflecting ourselves.