These few weeks, I kept reading the book – How to stop breaking your own heart and there was one chapter that impressed me a lot. The chapter talked about “perfection.” In order to earn other’s affection, the author worked so hard to be that “ideal” child. From then on, she always kept it in mind that she needed to always be perfect. This makes me reflect on my own, I always ask myself to be perfect, too. When I scroll through Instagram, I always admire others and hope that one day I can be as perfect as them. To attain my goal, I will try to imitate them, like dressing up as them and doing things the same as them. Gradually, I lose the meaning of who I am.
After reading, I gained a lot and it really changed my mind. As the book mentioned, perfection is an unattainable goal and it simply doesn’t exist. It’s a myth, a construct that we desperately need to detach ourselves from. Everyone progresses everyday, and we all want to be better and better. Besides, we don’t have the same goal for our lives. Accordingly, there is no true standard of what perfection is. Now, I want to change my bad habits and understand what I really want instead of imitating others or admiring others because we all work hard on our own lives.
By the way, there is one sentence I really like in this chapter and I want to share with you. “Our idea of perfection is flawed; we measure ourselves against others, without recognizing that we’re all walking a unique path that was destined solely for us to pursue. We will never find our true essence by emulating someone else.”
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